Eat Pray Love Chronicles Part Six
Bead 091 Wayan Nuriyasih, the lady healer, and Miss Gilbert are chit chatting. Tutti, the daughter of Wayan, is playing with a blue floor tile. She found it at a construction site, and would like to have bathroom with tiles like that. Miss Gilbert gets an idea.
This comment is for a youtube video, ELIZABETH GILBERT Talks About Eat, Pray Love. I’m from India and I can’t believe how fucking condescending the movie was on our country. Cmon we are the largest democracy in the world with fucking brilliant scientists from IITs. Its not all yogis and elephants you know! How’d Americans feel if the world only talked about how great Disneyland is…. no. America is great because of Clint Eastwood and Abraham Lincoln and Benjamin Franklin and Ernest Hemmingway. Don’t belittle another nation its easy but ultimately crowds your own vision.
Bead 092 Miss Gilbert has an idea. She goes to an internet cafe, and sends a message to her friends. The story of Wayan Nuriyasih is told… the divorce, the healing work, and the daughter who wants to be a veterinarian. Miss Nuriysih lives in a series of rented spaces, and every few months she has to move. The email asks for donations, to help Wayan Nuriyasih buy a permanent home. Soon, $18k has been collected.
Facebook is currently full of, among other things, a type of graphic art which can charitably described as commodity wisdom. Someone thinks of a funny / inspiring / motivational phrase, and pastes it in front of a picture. The only way you can share this thought is to copy the image. PG is fond of people who express their bright ideas in paste friendly text. The paragraph below is a happy exception to the overall trend.
[Image Description: A Willy Wonka meme, which shows Gene Wilder depicting the character of Willy Wonka, from the film Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory, leaning their head on a fist and smiling at someone. This meme is used to convey a sarcastic comment. The text surrounding the Willy Wonka's face reads "So you think gay couples should be able to get married?" at the top, over Wonka's head. Below, it reads "Oooooooooh, thaaaaaanks." I created this meme using the program at MemeGenerator.net to convey a sarcastic response to what I perceive as an ineffective statement from President Obama on "gay marriage" in light of the latest developments in North Carolina and the passing of Amendment One, which got signed into the stated constitution, banning marriage between same-sex (in the conventional, sex-structure essential definition of "sex") couples. This legislation was written in such a way that it affects adoptive parents, foster parents, and single parents, and the families of all of such persons. It is an affront on a nation that ensures equality for all in it's Constitution.]
Bead 093 While the money is coming in, Miss Gilbert is spending time with Felipe. They talk about a wide variety of subjects, including the concept of Miss Gilbert taking a lover. One night, Felipe starts to give Miss Gilbert a good night kiss. She tucks her head into his chest, and allows him to hold her.
These quotes are from the twitter feed @Kurt_Vonnegut. Apparently he is in a place with internet access. ~ Busy, busy, busy. ~ I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, “If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.” ~ Like so many Americans, she was trying to construct a life that made sense from things she found in gift shops. ~ There is a tragic flaw in our Constitution, and I don’t know what can be done to fix it. This is it: Only nut cases want to be president. ~ How embarrassing to be human. ~ Say what you will about the sweet miracle of unquestioning faith, I consider a capacity for it terrifying and absolutely vile!
Bead 094 Ketut Liyer, the wise old medicine man, was the reason for Miss Gilbert coming to Bali. His company gets put to the side amidst all the excitement in her life. Miss Gilbert asks him what he thinks of romance, with the reply that he is too old. It seems as though the old lady, Nyomo, that Miss Gilbert thought was his wife, was someone else. Nyomo is the wife of Ketut’s brother, who helps out with running his household.
There was an online article, How Elizabeth Gilbert Ruined Bali. Ubud has been overrun by middle aged women seeking meaning for their privileged lives. There is a popular T shirt, with the slogan “Eat, Pay, Leave.”
Two filmmakers” I met from California tried to interview Ketut Liyer, one of Gilbert’s traditional Balinese healers in the book. Instead they were handed a copy of the book and directed to read aloud certain passages while Liyer listened.”
Bead 095 Miss Gilbert tells Wayan Nuriyasih about the $18k. She does not know how to react. An Indonesian bank account is set up to receive the funds.
In the Q TV interview, Miss Gilbert says that when you are childless, you are constantly expected to defend that choice. She wonders if perhaps it should be the opposite, and that those who reproduce should always be expected to defend that choice. To PG, the analogy is when you quit drinking, and people say that you have a problem with alcohol. This is odd. To not use an addictive substance is seen as “having a problem”.
Bead 096 Felipe is taken to meet Wayan Nuriyasih, and she approves. Felipe is taken to meet Ketut Liyer, who reads his palm and approves. An affair is suggested, but Miss Gilbert is not ready to make the leap. A solitary night is spent, and a paragraph about masturbation written. When Miss Gilbert wakes up, she is happy to be alone.
A movie was made from Eat, Pray, Love. Julia Roberts played Miss Gilbert. Miss Roberts is from Smyrna, GA. This is across the Chattahoochee River from Chamblee, if you throw in a few exits on I 285. Once, a young man said to his bf, kiss me where it is dark and stinky. He took him to Smyrna.
Bead 097 After making her dinner, Felipe told Miss Gilbert that it was time to go into bed. She agreed with him.
There is a saying, a environmentalist is someone who built his cabin last year. What follows is a comment from How Elizabeth Gilbert Ruined Bali. “Man, I have been in the past and soon will again be an expat living in Asia, and I can translate the sentiment of this article in one paragraph: “All of these tourists (who are not me) are totally ruining the (my) authentic experience of living here. It sucks that everything’s getting so commercial (I prefer it when the locals are quaintly impoverished, and there are no businesses around except for the ones that I like). All of these foreigners (except me, because I’m different) need to get out of here (so me and my friends can be the only super-special foreigners around. Also, nice caftan-wearing middle aged ladies are 10,000 times better than asshole foreigners who get drunk and puke on people’s doorsteps, start fights, INCITE RIOTS (like that British guy in Thailand), support violent criminal organizations by buying drugs and supporting the local sex trade, are condescending and rude to locals and just rude to other foreigners, and then think they’re superior to nice caftan-wearing ladies because they’re young and have a dick, which makes them cool like Kerouac instead of old and lame like middle aged people with vaginas.”
Bead 098 After the breakthrough with Felipe, Miss Gilbert goes on a road trip with another man. It was planned that wasy. Her friend Yudhi misses the highways of America, and wants to do a road trip. Of course, Bali is the size of Delaware, and the roads are horrible. Still, they rent a car, buy junk food, and drive around the island talking in what they think is cool dude slang.
It is funny what an audience will laugh at. This is from the Elizabeth Gilbert TED talk “. So that’s reassuring, you know. But it would be worse, except for that I happen to remember that over 20 years ago, when I first started telling people — when I was a teenager — that I wanted to be a writer, I was met with this same kind of, sort of fear-based reaction. And people would say, “Aren’t you afraid you’re never going to have any success? Aren’t you afraid the humiliation of rejection will kill you? Aren’t you afraid that you’re going to work your whole life at this craft and nothing’s ever going to come of it and you’re going to die on a scrap heap of broken dreams with your mouth filled with bitter ash of failure?” (Laughter) Like that, you know” TED audiences think it is funny for a hardworking author to die a bitter, lonely death. That is odd.
Bead 099 When Miss Gilbert gets back from her road trip, she gets in bed with Felipe, and does not leave for a month.
This is from the Elizabeth Gilbert TED talk And for me, the best contemporary example that I have of how to do that is the musician Tom Waits, who I got to interview several years ago on a magazine assignment. And we were talking about this, and you know, Tom, for most of his life he was pretty much the embodiment of the tormented contemporary modern artist, trying to control and manage and dominate these sort of uncontrollable creative impulses that were totally internalized.
But then he got older, he got calmer, and one day he was driving down the freeway in Los Angeles he told me, and this is when it all changed for him. And he’s speeding along, and all of a sudden he hears this little fragment of melody, that comes into his head as inspiration often comes, elusive and tantalizing, and he wants it, you know, it’s gorgeous, and he longs for it, but he has no way to get it. He doesn’t have a piece of paper, he doesn’t have a pencil, he doesn’t have a tape recorder.
So he starts to feel all of that old anxiety start to rise in him like, “I’m going to lose this thing, and then I’m going to be haunted by this song forever. I’m not good enough, and I can’t do it.” And instead of panicking, he just stopped. He just stopped that whole mental process and he did something completely novel. He just looked up at the sky, and he said, “Excuse me, can you not see that I’m driving?” (Laughter) “Do I look like I can write down a song right now? If you really want to exist, come back at a more opportune moment when I can take care of you. Otherwise, go bother somebody else today. Go bother Leonard Cohen.”
Bead 100 Good times must be paid for. Miss Gilbert comes down with a nasty bladder infection. Wayan Nuriyasih has the cure. After fixing the ailment, Miss Nuriyasih tells about some of the therapies she performs. It seems like some couples have a problem making babies, and it is very dangerous to tell a Balinese man that he is impotent. The solution is to have the woman go for treatment in a special clinic. Young men are recruited from the village to assist. The woman is soon pregnant, and everyone is happy.
This was found on facebook. I think the remains of the recent emotional cataclysm are gone. Got up, gave myself an amusing haircut, did some watering and transplanting on the Flats, and went for a long (by recent standards) run in the lovely morning. Clomped along, concentrating on the green, the growing, the flowering, the scented, and when I came to a particularly generous patch of sky, looked up and said, “Wow, And it’s all MINE.” I’ll share, of course. So, yeah, back to reasonably happy. Then a bird shat on me.
Bead 101 Felipe points out that Miss Nuriyasih has not bought a house yet. This might be a problem.
Maybe it is time to actually write something, instead of just pasting in text from facebook. There are someimes things to say. Just because you are tired of a project, and will be overjoyed when it is over, does not justify laziness. What if Christopher Columbus had taken that attitude when he was three fourths of the way to the new world. The native americans wish he had.
But then, this was on facebook, and fits in with the rest of this post. People who say “America, love it or leave it” have clearly never tried to get a residence permit in another country as an American. It’s not that easy! It will take me 5 years to qualify for a resident visa in Thailand, and I’ll have to pass a language test to prove that I can speak, read, and write Thai. I can, so bring it on. But People who claim USA is the best country in the world should try living in another one for a while first! Especially one where redneck English is not the national language! That is all.
Bead 102 Wayan Nuriyasih throws a party to celebrate Miss Gilbert’s thirty fifth birthday.
This was found on facebook. [Image Description:A yellow-shaded representation of the face of Malcolm X, a civil rights revolutionary fighter, with purple text to the left side of their face, reading, "Don't be in a hurry to condemn a man because he doesn't know what you know, or think as you think, or as fast. There was a time when you didn't know what you know today."]
Bead 103 The business of buying a house, or land to build a house on, is complicated. Buying property is a mine field of legal trickery in almost any country. In Bali, it might be worse. Even if the property is for sale, and the price is right, and the seller really has a title for the land, Miss Nuriyasih has to approve the taksu or spirit, of the land. At one point, she needs to go to a temple, to ask for guidance, but cannot enter the temple because she is having her period.
This is from the Elizabeth Gilbert TED talk Transcripts are the slack blogger’s friend. But, the tricky bit comes the next morning, for the dancer himself, when he wakes up and discovers that it’s Tuesday at 11 a.m., and he’s no longer a glimpse of God. He’s just an aging mortal with really bad knees, and maybe he’s never going to ascend to that height again. And maybe nobody will ever chant God’s name again as he spins, and what is he then to do with the rest of his life? This is hard. This is one of the most painful reconciliations to make in a creative life. But maybe it doesn’t have to be quite so full of anguish if you never happened to believe, in the first place, that the most extraordinary aspects of your being came from you. But maybe if you just believed that they were on loan to you from some unimaginable source for some exquisite portion of your life to be passed along when you’re finished, with somebody else.
Bead 104 Miss Gilbert is becoming comfortable with Felipe. She also decides that she does not want to live in Bali. The ex-pat lifestyle is not for her.
Seen and duly noted on facebook ~ Message to someone on okcupid who said they are looking for a partner in crime: “How perfect – I’m looking for a partner in crime too! See, I just killed these three hookers and I need a place to hide the bodies. Any ideas?” ~ When I’m feeling down or stressed, I can interpret almost anything as “proof” that I am unlovable (or that other people are unloving). But if I remember that my thinking will change when my mood changes, I can laugh at my moods and give myself some loving acceptance. Ironically, accepting the bad mood helps me move out of it. ~ Dear FB Buddies . . . Watch your wall. Tell your friends . . . Hackers are now on FB writing insults on your friends’ walls, such insults of which are made to appear as having come from you. You don’t know nor see it but your friends do. As a result, they have deleted you from their list of friends. I want to assure you that if you get something supposedly from me that’s offensive, it certainly didn’t come from me. Copy and re-post PLEASE ~ d racecard is a palindrome ~ PG, I came up with the ideaq for 911 and the Patriot Act. I gave the idea to a C.I.A. agent and the rest is history. This happened in 1986.
Bead 105 There is a ritual performed by Ketut Liyer. A baby is six months old, and has not touched the ground. This is the custom. At six months, there is a ritual, with prayer, chanting, and relatives wearing their best clothes. At some point, the baby’s feet touch the earth.
These comments are for the video Afternoon with Ketut Liyer. Once again Im balinese, tiang nak bali .. saya orang bali. This old man is a lier, I went there to his place in Ubud and He was trying to sell painting which is you can get ib local market for 30-40 US$ and this old guy Tried to sell for 200 US$, and whatever he said its bullshit. He said that me and my girlfriend will be rich n good business.And he said that Im a faithfull person in front of my girlfriend, in fact I have cheated on my girl friend for over than 4 times.please becareful with him ~ and we should believe in you, who cheated to your girlfriend for more than 4 times? :) ~ Ketut Liyer just a character the same like us, He just try to make people happy with what he said to you, he could be lying to, but whos care as long he said something good about you. Im a balinese and my family generation is BALIAN other said Priest or Shaman or Medicine man whatever you call,also we are the Blood of Bali King Sri Nararya Kresna Kepakisan, Never in my Family Generation teach us to read Hand Gesture or Line.
Bead 106 It finally becomes apparent to Miss Gilbert that Miss Nuriyasih is playing games with her. An ultimatum is made, and the property is bought within hours.
With Eat, Pray, Love winding down, PG is wondering what he will read next. The Chamblee library does not have the best selection, and requesting a book online seems like a lot of work. A facebook friend faced a similar dilemma, and asked for summer reading suggestions.
If you want “to be at the limits of what has been thought in relation to your discipline you should read Kant’s Anthropology from a Pragmatic Perspective, and try it in the original German just 2-3 pages a day. Then read Foucault. I cannot believe you have not read your Foucault. Discipline and Punish is a benchmark of the social sciences, he walks around prisons and writes poetry about their history and social functions/capacities. The Order of Things by Foucault is a master piece. ~ Look, Colin, Foucault hurts the part of me that does thinking. I do not have the capacity yet to read Foucault without a quiet screaming slowly starting in the back of my mind. ~ That’s because you have to relearn how to read. You approach thinkers like him like you would read a poet. You don’t examine them for their propositional truth claims so much as to the relationships they are making with the questions that arise or that you have, some of which there are no answers for because they are the very limit of what can be thought with the relationships we have, and some answers are practical.
Bead 107 Miss Gilbert and Felipe go on a vacation. The location is an island, Gili Meno. Miss Gilbert had been there before. This was during the first trip to Bali, which coincided with divorce trauma. This is where she first wrote in her magic notebook, and G-d wrote back to her, using her own hand. This is the same hand that played a prominent role in bead 096.
A man named Saint Anthony went on a spiritual retreat once. He was visited by angels that looked like devils, and devils that looked like angels. He could tell one from the other by the way he felt when they left. If he was happy, it was an angel. If he was angry or sad, it was the devil. PG has few illusions about the people who wreak emotional havoc because of Jesus.
Bead 108 Felipe tells Miss Gilbert that he needs to stay in Bali, because of his business. They will work something out.
Miss Gilbert later married Felipe. This shotgun wedding was forced on them by US officials. In this video, Eat Pray Love’s Elizabeth Gilbert on Q TV Miss Gilbert discusses the evolution of marriage. Historically, marriage has been arranged, for the benefit of the families involved. The concept of a man and woman choosing to marry, because of love, is a recent innovation. It is seen as dangerous by some, and divorce rates have increased as this custom has become more prevalent.
This comment was made about the Q TV video. “The 70′s misandry, man-hatred, and sense of entitlement have only mushroomed. Deeds and comments that were “radical” and “hateful” in the 70′s are mainstream today. Elizabeth Gilbert is the norm. Millions of American women would do the exact same selfish whore things if they had a large advance on a big book deal. This has always been true of women but even more so toady.”
This is the end of Eat, Pray, Love. Thank you for reading this. Parts one, two, three, four, and five were previously published. Pictures for this post are from “The Special Collections and Archives,Georgia State University Library”. Selah